resilience, psychological resilience, is the power that we don’t need to exhaust ourselves in conflicts and crises, but you have to cope. How we respond to crises depends on our resilience. It is characterized by the ability to dialogue.
in This case, it is not the pure Form of verbal communication, but rather an attitude of self, the environment and the life that is shaped by the interest, openness, compassion, eyes, height, and appreciation. Resilience describes, among other things, the ability to deal with the reality, eye to eye, accept it and make the Best out of her. About the author
Mirriam priess eight years was a psychosomatic specialist clinic in Hamburg and, among other things, in a managerial function responsible for the treatment of anxiety, depression and Burnout. Since 2005, she advises companies for a successful health management. She coaches executives in the area of conflict and stress management, and holds throughout the Republic of seminars and lectures with a focus on Burnout and prevention.
What can we do to not exhaust in the Corona-crisis
as on the economic level, a recession can be a response to a crisis, this can be on the mental side, fatigue, Depression and paralysis. What can we do to prevent this and to ensure to remain in unstable times internally stable? The Following are six factors that characterize resilience.
1. The dialogue with the environment: A powerful “We” form
A strong with each other strengthens the Individual. Thus, the call for solidarity is not an expression of the beginning of the euphoria, is still a lip service remains, it needs the willingness of all to live what distinguishes a real with each other: The dialogue balance between I, You and We – that is, everyone comes to the same interests in the relationship.
the willingness of all to leave the own comfort zone and to take the part of responsibility that is possible and necessary to hear.
also, the balance between Give and Take to comply with. People and systems will burn out, if this is ignored. So a Central characteristic of Burnout is Concerned, is given too much or have taken too much of the Wrong.
This attitude relates to both the System, as well as each in his individual Situation. I give as much as I take, this is my Situation adequately, the balance in the relationship – my own balance? This begins in the normal shopping, if the price is the design of protection masks when applying for help with rent payments, in compliance with the rules for the protection of the Weaker, such as in our daily personal and professional to each other.
crises intensify when relations may be functionalized, if one tries at the expense of the other to save and to enrich, or if the rescue of the other means that the private balance is lost.
2. Open and interested in The atmosphere of
– free reactions to existential threat and uncontrollability to respond, are Depression or Aggression and the growing focus on yourself. To meet the crisis in the Dialog and to make it constructive, is a key factor to cope with them. This is the atmosphere of togetherness is crucial. To create an active atmosphere, which is characterized by the interest and openness, compassion, eyes, height, and respect, creates the basis to deal with seemingly Inhuman, and panic to reduce . As well as a lack of a culture of Dialogue, cause of the crisis is, it is a core point of the crisis management. Interesting facts on the topic of Burnout
A Burnout does not develop overnight, but develops in 4 phases:
- alarm phase , in the inner tension and battle stance is trying to cope with a Situation or to assert themselves in a Situation
- the resistance phase , the own Position is abandoned and the whole force is directed to the fact, to fight back against the Unwanted,
- exhaustion phase , in which the resistance drops slowly, and
- withdrawal phase , the own Itself, which resolved its own identity, “” has, and resignedly gives up.
It also includes the following aspects:
- A conflicted relationship to a Person or a Situation,
- the lack of a relationship to itself, and
- to Lead the (losing) fight.
It is so any exhaustion, a unresolved conflict in which it was not possible to represent themselves and to find each other eye-to-eye, or to leave the Situation. This can affect professional and private relationships, how the relationship to a System (for example, enterprises, society) or a life situation/event (illness, Failure, loss).
3. Factor eye level: do you Accept, what to change
can be A key cause of Burnout of the loss of eye height , and thus the view of the realities and the correct dimension – in the situation assessment is, in the situation handling, the purpose of each. A Burnout is caused by the fact that the Affected remain too long in a Situation and these, in vain, to combat it.
Inner strength comes from the strength to accept the Unchangeable and seek on this basis to find new Ways and solutions. This means on all levels to abandon the fight – mentally and emotionally. Instead, you should accept what is and the best make possible out of it.
4. Self-reflection: What is it that causes me to be afraid of?
In times of crisis and periods in which the control is restricted to break often old experiences, in which there was also no control. This can be childhood experiences, losses, separations, or Fail worked. As a result, the current Fears are multiplied many times over and the current Situation can no longer be realistically assessed. Options for action which are actually present are not detected at all.
The active questions and their own Fears to Recognize is a Central point in order to stay realistic and ready for action. Here, both the inner dialogue, how the dialogue with friends or professional advisors, can help you to recognize your crazy selves and the eye-level again.
5. Feel instead of repress: do not Take the time for their own needs.
Thus, the crisis becomes an unresolved Trauma, it needs the active engagement with itself. This also includes the dialogue with your own feelings heard. Many people tend to displace in stress situations, their feelings, and to switch to function mode. This often results in that existing limits are exceeded and people overload in the load in addition.
himself to stand to the side, is a prerequisite to gaining strength to emerge from the crisis. The successful relationship with yourself is the basis for solidarity and a strong with each other. Active interest to yourself, Allow the feelings, the willingness to meet yourself in its limits on the height of the eyes, and a compassionate and appreciative with the deal, strengthens the inner balance. So take time for yourself and do what you strengthening on the inside.
6. A sense of find: do you See the crisis as an opportunity
A Central aspect of crises is to master, to find meaning in the Situation and a Chance to see in her. The personal formulation of meaning, just there, where a sense seems to be lost, protects against inner paralysis and Resignation. Here, also, Faith helps. This can be both the religious, spiritual, Faith, and the trust and the orientation that there is a force which carries us even in the hardest times, but also the Belief in a personal value system, which helps to carry the Unbearable.
What can we learn? To grow to cope with crises means
A crisis is overcome only when the cause of the crisis and the factors that led to it are fixed.
In the mental health field is to overcome a crisis then, when I get to Act a different consciousness and therefore connected to others. If the patterns that have led to the crisis will not be solved, then the crisis is not tackled, but soothes and breaks out again at regular intervals.
to find In the crisis an opportunity, requires the recognition of what is a crisis: A Situation of upheaval. Cope welcomes you to new horizons and change what led to the crisis and has stepped up, personally, interpersonally, systemically, politically.
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