the kindergarten of the city of Kotlas of the Arkhangelsk region, the teachers punished the two boys for disobedience in a rather unusual way: dressed them up in girly dresses, and has led the care so that other kids laughed at them. We have made a two invalid against children things: first assault (changed clothes against his will), then humiliation (provoked other kids make fun of them).
in fact, the education of the humiliation practiced by mankind for centuries – children were flogged, put on the peas, and so forth necessarily publicly, chastised, too, certainly in front of the class. It was believed that if the child is not only painful, but also embarrassing, produced by the punishment effect will increase. And it was true – thus nurtured generations of slaves.
But now we are like in the 21st century we live, and every little bit of relevance to education, has long been known that children are not to humiliate that it inhibits the will to act from the weak, strong and irritating. But for some reason the humiliation to this day very fond of many of our teachers perhaps affected by the echoes of their own education.
Educators Kotlas kindergarten harmed and also all the other children that made them their accomplices, forced to laugh at friends. Yes, the infamous gender development of a child that has received so much attention lately, is impossible without mutual ridicule boys tease girls, they pay them in return. But the task of every parent and educator to smooth over these contradictions, and not to foment them, to teach the children to show mutual respect, and not show them to be a girl shame on you! Adults, and especially those who work with children, remember – mostly children perceive everything very simple and straightforward.
Therefore, the case in Kotlas kindergarten is worthy of all condemnation. It is a pity that the chorus of voices condemning immediately joined those who, on this occasion, brought his favorite song on “worse than gay no beast”. “Children forced to take part in a drag Queen show!”, “Dressed the boys suffered a blow to their sexuality”, “what if they now like to wear dresses?” – indignant indignant users of social networks.
Calm down, dear guardians of sexual purity. Due to changing into a girl boy can’t be gay, transgender, etc., sexual orientation is quite different origins. So that the blow they received only a sense of self-worth, trust in their elders, and respect for girls. But I always thought that people who believe sexual variability incarnation of the chief evil of the world, it’s all the little things…
Commentaryriy psychologist Eugene singer:
“For children in preschool age different dressing in a whole lesson fun – they can dress up anyone, even a monkey, a parrot, though, even spider-man. Therefore, the fact of putting on a dress is nothing special – the bad thing is that, first, this is done by force, and secondly, it presents adults as an insult, as an attempt to deprive the boys of their gender identity, to turn into girls, to be whom, under the version imposed by the teachers, very shameful. But whether this case is harmful to children, almost entirely dependent on the behavior of their parents. To neutralize the effects, you need to tell the child something like, “your teacher’s wrong, I’ll talk to her, and she never again”. This is the right way. And wrong in such cases to begin to ask: “what you have done what you did?” This question justifies the act of the caregiver, and the child denies the credibility of the parent who was not on his side. Similarly, you cannot do the reverse, namely to stigmatise injury to start in front of the baby to discuss how cruelly he had been treated, what the consequences might be, how he was hurt and things.”
